If you are not planning to answer that boy, then don’t act like he has a chance. If you are in the stage of giving it all a chance and checking if he’s worth it, then go ahead and continue with what you are doing, BUT if all these days or weeks, or months (!) you had it all in your mind that he is not the one you wish to spend your lifetime with, then stop entertaining him.
Stop giving him hopes.
Stop making him feel you need him.
Stop making him feel that he’s the only one who can help you.
No. You are not helping him move on.
You are becoming so unfair to him.
In short, you are using him.
You are using him to make you feel okay. To make you feel good while he is moving closer to humiliation.
You’ve told him many times that you don’t want him; that he’s not the one, but he’s still there. Why? Because every time you have a question, you immediately send him a message. He’s not the only one who knows the answer. If you need some errands to be done, you call him. He’s not the only one who can do it for you. Look for other people to help you. Not him.
There may be other ladies, other families, friends, who can help you. Not him. Release him. Give him the chance to be happy with someone else. The more you hold on to him, the more he feels you need him, and you just think you do, but you don’t.
That’s unfair. You are robbing him of the times he should have been spending with the one who is willing to love him better than you do.
Do him a favor, if your friendship matters to you, turn a cold ear to everything sweet he does to you. Don’t respond with feelings that could kindle unwanted emotions. 1% of hope given to him, weights like 100% percent of hope on his side.
Help him, by letting him go.
Go, find yourself a superman. As for this boy you keep on entertaining, let him be someone else’s leading man.
Let him live his life without you bothering him every time you need help.
This post is part of one of the books I’m currently writing. Dear People, includes bitter-sweet letters we badly need to hear sometimes to make things right. It includes those words that people long to tell us, but they can’t because they don’t have the guts to, because they are either your friend or they just really don’t care if you keep on doing the wrong thing. =)
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WordPress DailyPost: Proclivity
proclivity | prōˈklivədē, prəˈklivədē | noun (plural proclivities) a tendency to choose or do something regularly; an inclination or predispositiontoward a particular thing: a proclivity for hard work.
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