Kids have this never-ending issue with sharing.
Let me take that back, kids and adults have this never-ending issue with sharing.
One morning, my kids were sharing a bowl of pasta. One of them complained that the other one is eating more.
Me: Don’t worry. There’s more in the kitchen!
The Paper Bag
When my kids were in kindergarten, there was a birthday party in their school and I took two paper bags to hold their presents. Unknown to me was that the paper bag I used for my second son’s gift was where my eldest would put his ropes for playing cowboys.
To make things clear, there were so many paper bags in our storage; better and bigger ones. I just used that paper bag for my second son’s gift because it was the most accessible to me at that time. Unfortunately, it created a chaotic environment in our happy morning.
My eldest kept on mumbling. He didn’t want his brother to use his paper bag. He’d rather go through all the ripping process of removing what’s inside, looking for another paper bag, and stapling things all over again.
I kept on saying, “There’s more in the storage!”
Irritatingly, of course, he still wouldn’t listen and he kept on mumbling and this just really got me and my husband upset. We scolded him because it was not the first time he did that. It had to be confronted.
After scenes of scolding, crying, and award-winning acting from all the people in the house, I told my husband to give me any paper bag.
I showed my son the whole process of removing everything; removing the staples, the labels, stapling things, etc. then gave him his paper bag.
“There’s more in the storage. Better bags are there and yet you don’t want your brother to use this small paper bag. You want me to go all through the scolding and unwrapping instead of just saying, ‘It’s okay. I can use another one. There’s more in the storage anyway.'”
It was the last time he did that.
A Lesson about Giving
At the end of the confrontation, I was just sighing in frustration, not just because of what happened, but because it was as if God was telling me:
“That is exactly how I feel whenever people will not share what they have and I keep telling them ‘there is MORE in my storage.'”
Fear of Losing
We have our own reasons why we don’t give. First is because there is this fear of losing everything in the end. We are afraid that when we share, we might end up lacking and that maybe no one would be there to help us. Sometimes, we also don’t want to give because people have been lying and making schemes. There is this lack of trust already towards the people asking for help. This is why we need wisdom as well, but in most cases, it is just the fear of losing: money, resources, and edge. We have things or ideas that we don’t want to share to people while God keeps on reminding us:
It’s more blessed to give than to receive.
Give for it will come back to you, of good measure and running over.
We are fearful of losing things because we don’t look at the one who gives.
The giver is the source of it all. That is why he is very confident whenever he promises us that he will provide. He assures us that when we give, it will come back with a good measure. The one who has already given his best will not hasten to give you his least.
For there is one God, and there is one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all, which is the testimony given at the proper time. 1 Timothy 2:5
Every parent longs to see a child willing to share to others what he has. I have never seen any parent who is happy that his child is not sharing, but I’ve seen thousands of parents willing to reward kids who share. God feels the same way. I imagine God looking down from heaven watching us living our own lives and not sharing what we have to others. Maybe he wants to tell us almost the same thing I’ve been telling my kids.
“Go, share what you have. I have more in the storage. There’s more here, just learn to give. I got your back.”
By the way, if you are curious of the paper bag, it’s this one: No blings. No golds. Just a Bath & Body paper bag)
Originally Posted: October 9, 2017
Last Updated: June 22, 2020